In Loving Memory of Dave Galanter

This site is dedicated to the life and memory of Dave Galanter. Dave is a man who was well loved by his family and friends and occasionally wrote Star Trek novels in between life's other moments. If you are one of Dave's loved ones, and he had a lot of love to give, we hope you find good memories and comfort here. If you are a fan or someone finding Dave for the first time, welcome, you will find out a lot about who Dave was and who he continues to be in our hearts.

Galanter, Lothridge & Welford Family

Dave's Virtual Memorial (Recorded)

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Thank you to everyone who left a message. Dave will be missed very much.

Messages from family, friends & fans

One of my favorite memories of Dave is from our first date. We had met on eHarmony and had spoken on the phone for quite a few hours before we agreed to meet. We met at Macaroni Grill, and I walked in and did not even see him sitting next to the side on a bench. He had his glasses off, holding them in his mouth as he played on his phone. I think he was texting someone, telling them about our date. That's the first time I saw him, my love

Simantha

5 months ago

45

I met Dave in 2011 on PS3 playing Red Dead Redemption. It was just a normal, random encounter, that led to years of friendship. One of my favorite memories with Dave was when we were at a hotel in Ticonderoga, June 2019, when we visited the Star Trek Original Series Set Tour. Dave, Simantha and Maegan (my wife) were sat in a room in the hotel and he was taking his pills. He dropped it and was looking for it. He couldn't remember what it looked like, but he picked up a pill off the floor and put it in his mouth, then swallowed. What followed was immediate regret. He had looked at the pill, previously and thought it was his pill, but he wasn't sure. "I'm not sure if that was my pill", he said, pulling an "oops" face. You'll be in our hearts forever, Dave and will be sadly missed by family, friends & fans.

Joshua Welford

5 months ago

30

I first met Dave after simmy and I had been through some tough times with the loss of another dear friend. I thought his timing coming into Simms life was perfect. He was funny, energetic and just always full of joy. I just couldn't help but love Dave the more time I spent with him. His loss will be felt by many but his memories will remain with us forever as a comfort and his legacy of his impact on society will be for eternity and beyond. See ya later friend.

Frances Galante

5 months ago

2

I first connected with Dave in the late 1990’s, online, at Alvaro’s Spider-Man Message Board. He had recently joined and the small community was growing, along with people’s internet usage. Dave was known as “Cap” on the boards and typically displayed a cool, calm, yet direct demeanor, with his interactions there. In short time, Dave became a pal. I appreciate his openness, honesty, introspective skills and his sharp wit. Over the years, Dave showed himself to be a friend and confidante. While our lives became busier and our communications and conversations grew less frequent, I always treasured our contacts, whether he initiated them or I. Whether they were silly or deeper, usually a healthy combo of both.

I am a better person for knowing him and I’m glad that our relationship allowed us to share those feelings with one another.

Fred

5 months ago

1

I met Dave a few years back in a Facebook group of which we were both members. I will admit that I was a bit awestruck – not only by his insightful, even-handed viewpoints and the humanity that often shone through them, but also because he was an honest-to-God, published Star Trek writer. I did my best to not fanboy out over him, but I got small moments of joy when, in a given sub-thread, he would respond to me directly and start joking around; it meant the world to me when I could make him laugh. But, again, I kept a bit of a respectful distance - I didn’t want to get “in his face“ because I suspected he probably got that a lot. So, I just made sure that whatever I posted seemed halfway-intelligent so I didn’t embarrass myself in front of him.

He then friended me – again, while being Facebook friends gave me some closer connection to his “real life“, I didn’t intrude, but instead took to relentlessly sharing with my significant other all of the loving, hilarious exchanges between Dave and Simantha that he shared online. Such a shining example of a beautiful relationship. Again, I was happy and honored to be his “friend“, but, because being a good person was just who Dave was to everyone, I really didn’t suspect that he took any special notice of me, and and I was OK with that.

Then, one day, completely out of the blue, I got an instant message from Dave on Facebook. It was his very first private communication to me and it said simply:

“I like and admire you. I just thought you should know.”

There's a lot more to say about the friendship that grew out of that single, beautiful gesture, but I’m going to have to stop there. I am utterly heartbroken.

Michael K. Stewart

5 months ago

9

I only knew Dave through Facebook and a mutual love of Star Trek. He comments almost always left me with a smile. I knew from his posts he lived his family dearly and was a great person and a sweet soul.

Brenda Handam

5 months ago

2

Dave and I started working together in late 1997. In 1998 we moved to a location on the Saginaw river working for what was then Bank One. We took turns telling stories in this long narrow room with just the two of us. We had to cap the limit on telling the same story more than 5 times as some were better than others. I used to throw double negatives into my stories just to side track the conversation and upset Dave. We also brought in a sandwich maker just taunt the security guard. We both had the same sense of humor. We remained friends even after I became his boss. Lots of stress but lots of good times in those days.

Greg Warning

5 months ago

25

Dave RIP. You will always be remembered.

Gerry

5 months ago

2

I cannot claim the privilege of having known Dave well. We only met in person a few times at Shore Leave conventions and exchanged messages occasionally on message boards. That said, I was always, always glad to see him and happy to spend a few minutes chatting and catching up. Writers tend to live a bit too deep inside their own heads for their own good (occupational hazard) and I have no clear idea whether that was true for Dave, but he had a way of getting me out of mine with a deftness and kindness that, honestly, I always kind of astonished me. He will be missed. Condolences to his family and friends.

Jeff Lang

5 months ago

1

Dave was truly a second father to me. He has been a part of my family since I was two years old. He was always around, guiding me and influencing me as much as my parents did. His presence was always a no-judgment zone, and that was so valuable to me. His loss is such a wound to my heart, unlike anything I've experienced before. I loved him so much.

Lydia

5 months ago

11

I never had the opportunity to meet Dave, but I know of him through friends, and saw that he had lost his fight with Cancer. All I can offer are prayers to his family and friends, and a thanks for his contributions to the Trek writing community.

Jon Tessler

5 months ago

3

The first time he ever sent me a private message, the title was just "Love you". Here was this guy who I had never interacted with, and so my thoughts went to a really obvious place.

But I opened the note anyway, and he immediately said, "In a strictly platonic way, as I'm married. But I love...." He was talking about podcasting I had been doing.

He was kind and generous enough to allow himself to be interviewed by me as a part of my capstone project for my Master's. In a corner of YouTube, my interview with him is still up.

Through it all, the things I took away from my associations with him weren't just that he was funny and smart and creative. It was also the extraordinary capacity for love he had. For Sam. For his niece. For his family, both blood and not-blood.

He will be missed.

Janet Gershen-Siegel

5 months ago

25

I knew Dave from two worlds - he was a coworker of mine when he worked at Gallaudet, and we saw each other at many Farpoint and Shore Leave cons over the years. I am stunned that he is gone, but I trust that he knew how much he is loved. We'll all miss you, Dave.

Meredith

5 months ago

3

I met Dave through a well-known group on Facebook, in the last 4 years we spoke often about many things, from Star Trek to just general chit chat. I was lucky enough to have the honour of being written into his Discovery novel "Deadendless" as a character.

I do not know if Dave knew how much this truly meant to me, obviously, I thanked him and told him how much this meant to me, but it truly showed to me how great he truly was as we were mere internet buddies and I never expected it.

Your sense of humour was amazing, quirky, dry and very much cheeky and was a relief from the woes of 2020 and you, my friend will be missed greatly by so so many you had an impact upon so many.

In honour of you my friend... here is one last "I Still Don't Give A Damn...

Rest easy the universe is your playground now...

James Hams

5 months ago

5

I met Dave in Ticonderoga, he was gracious enough to let me interview him , we ended up talking for hours. When he learned that I worked as a TTY operator we ended up talking for hours where he introduced me to the realities of deaf people beyond the TTY machine I worked at everyday.

Thanks for the memories, they were few but they are precious.

Jean-Philippe

5 months ago

6

Dave and I became friends on the sets of Star Trek: New Voyages. He had written a script for us and we were shooting that script. He was the kindest and gentlest soul. I was so busy helping with the production, we only got a few opportunities to interact, but Dave was always the voice of reason and calm. That I can count him as a friend is my privilege and my honor.

Dave, I'll miss you, my friend.

"Sarge"

Andrew C Grieb

5 months ago

4

I posted my tribute to Dave on my blog, and it's easier to just link it here, if that's okay:

https://decandido.wordpress.com/2020/12/13/dave-galanter-rip/

He was among the finest humans, and he will be deeply missed.

Keith R.A. DeCandido

5 months ago

4

Thank you, for your wonderful work; super fan creator,

Martin

5 months ago

1

I'm glad I was able to tell Dave this while there was a little time for him to know how much I cherished his friendship: "To paraphrase what's been said about a Vulcan of our mutual acquaintance, of the souls I've encountered in my travels, yours is among the most delightfully human."

Howard Weinstein

5 months ago

1

It’s impossible for me to distill my relationship with Dave into a single message. How do you condense 23 years of friendship, brotherhood, and history into a single post?

You just can’t.

So I’ll just say this. Dave, through his love, caring, and teachings, shaped me into the man that I am right now. He adopted me as his brother, and went out of his way to learn an entire language solely so that he could communicate with me. Not too many people would be willing to do that.

Just about everything that is good in my life — my family, my job, my home, and more — can be attributed to his influence to me. He truly was the best, and I will miss him terribly.

Josh Lothridge

5 months ago

23

Dave's personality drew me immediately. I did technical support at a vendor when he was working at Gallaudet. His care and humor made working with him a pleasure.

He is, to this day, the one and only customer I've every reached out to connect socially with online following professional interactions. He's that good.

Rick Veader

5 months ago

2

I met Dave on Facebook through a mutual love of Star Trek, and we found out that we were both from the same part of Michigan. We talked a lot about Trek, home, and all things in between. I never had the privilege of meeting him in person, but I count him as a friend. He had a gift for finding the humor in any situation, and I will deeply miss that along with our chats.

Every time I see the Lorca "I still don't give a damn" gif, I will think of him and remember how much our conversations mean to me.

Shanna Gilkeson

5 months ago

1

Dave was a special person. I was lucky to have gotten to know you him through StarTrek as many have. He will be missed. My deepest condolences to his family and friends.

Michael Rizzo

5 months ago

3

Am so sorry to hear about Dave's passing. My thoughts and prayers for his family. I cleaned house for Dave and Josh in Michigan, for several years. Then he and Josh moved to Maryland. Was so happy to hear he'd met the live of his life and married. And he certainly loved cats.

Leann Bird

5 months ago

3

Dave is my uncle. His nick-name is Deet because when I was younger, I said Deet because I could not say Dave! So he decided that he wanted to be called Deet! I love him very much. He died a few nights ago... When I am older, I will donate to to TargetCancer ( when I have enough money )!

Delilah

5 months ago

24

“ I'll be a story in your head. But that's OK: we're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh? Because it was, you know, it was the best” - The Doctor

I think that quote says it all Dave. It’s clear you made a huge impact to those closest to you and to strangers who randomly came into your life whom you would always call “friend”. You’ll be missed but never forgotten.

Timothy Schnurr

5 months ago

1

I spent a lot of time (way too much time, really) in my early 20s arguing with Dave on his SnarkBait forum about politics. I can't imagine he ever knew this (I posted as the anonymous GV) but it was an incredibly formative experience for me. I later went on to make a living as a newspaper columnist in Toronto. I argue with people about politics almost every single day.

Dave taught me how to argue from evidence and the value of engaging in debate and defending your views. I wish I had a chance to let him know about this before he passed. But I want his family and friends to know that his reach was so great he even had an impact on a random Canadian kid. My condolences to you all.

Matt Elliott

5 months ago

0

After 35 years of knowing Dave there are no words I have that will ever seem adequate . . . Basically, Dave was one of the finest people I have ever known and a better friend than I could ask for. He didn't just care for the people in his life, he GENUINELY cared. All he went through the last year and his main concern always seemed to be making sure the people he loved we not unduly saddened. It was bravery like I have never seen and doubt I can match when my time comes.
Dave loved to laugh - - especially at himself! He would ease uncomfortable situations thru funny and incredibly inappropriate -- I can't believe you said that -- jokes. I would be shocked to find out there was someone who didn't like Dave. In his last days -- when words were difficult and the drugs were making him fuzzy we still did FaceTime. At one point his eyes popped open and he leaned forward and said loud enough so Sam could here "You have to get me out of here. These people are giving me cancer!" I calmly replied "What makes you think I am not part of the conspiracy?" He laughed out loud for me one last time.
My life because of Dave has been immeasurably richer and I will miss him for the rest of my days.
Thank you for being my friend Dave.

Gregory Brodeur

5 months ago

1

What can be really be said in a few words? My heart is aching, as I lost my baby brother. I have said before: forever etched in my mind will be when our mother brought my brother home from the hospital in his little green blanket and I held him for the first time that December. I remember it was around the holidays, it was cold outside and he was all wrapped up. I remember I asked if he had toes because his singlet covered up his feet. She chuckled and confirmed that he indeed did! Then my mother showed me how to hold him. I squeezed a bit and will always remember how much I loved my baby brother. No matter the ups and downs of childhood and adult life, an older sibling feels their younger sibling as a living part of them. He was always and always will be my baby brother and with his passing, I lost a huge part of me last week.

Neil Galanter

5 months ago

13

Often when we lose someone very important to us, the loss can overshadow the memories and the fact that we ever had that person in our lives, causing us to retreat from mentioning him or her at all. This happened to me when I was 14 and my grandmother, Lydia Jacob, the center of our family, suddenly passed away. Literally for years, no one mentioned her. It just hurt too much.
Something sad became something permanently sad, instead of cherishing and celebrating our ever having enjoyed her life in the first place. She had survived many horrific and hard chapters in her time, but had survived despite crippling rheumatoid arthritis and harrowing escapes in the middle east, had married my quiet and sweet grandfather and had four daughters. She had “made it,” eventually to set up housekeeping on a street appropriately named Grace Street.
I'll never forget her. I named my daughter after her. She lives on.
They say lightning never strikes twice in the same place, but for me it has—at least three times. First, I had Lydia to be my Nana. Second, I was lucky enough to meet and marry my husband, Greg Brodeur, certainly one in a million. And definitely not last, I looked up one day in a bookstore where I was signing a new publication, and there was Dave Galanter, looking back at me, eyes wide in instant friendship.
Again, my life was made better, and sure enough Dave was one of the family from then on. We even moved into the same house together. He helped raise our three kids. He was with us for every change, big or small, and so he is part of every memory. He was an uncle to our children, a shining constant star for me, and a cherished brother to Greg.
Rather than say good-bye, I'm hanging on to the happy greetings, the self-deprecating laughter, the bright new friend he brought us in his wife Sam, and the fact that I can't remember Dave's ever being in a bad mood or ever being anything other than his true happy self, without artifice or hesitation. He could lighten any situation with a joke, often tilting his humor in a kindly way. Even when he lost his parents, he was sensitively sweet about it.
We walked those roads together, and whatever roads Greg, our family, or I walk in the future, Dave will always be right there with us. We will never give him up.
Because he was so remarkably himself, we will never have to.

Diane Carey

Diane Carey

5 months ago

4

Dave was always full of such joy and empathy. He was also great fun to debate, everything from Star Trek to politics to philosophy. The world is a richer place thanks to him, and his Star Trek books will live forever. More importantly, though, he was a wonderful person and his memory will also live on in the family he loved so much. I'm honored to have been his friend.

Deborah

5 months ago

1

We love you so much, Dave
We really, really do.
The memories that we share
Always come shining through.

You're such a humorous person
You always make me smile
With your "conversation" posts
That are truly so worthwhile.

I love your written words
Your books are especially great.
Your New Voyages episode we filmed
Was really so first rate.

When we first met your Sim
We loved her-this is true.
She makes you very happy
And the perfect one for you!

The years have passed too quickly
But it seems they always do.
Please know our lives are better
Since they've been touched by you!

Deborah Mailhotte

5 months ago

1

Dearest Dave Galanter. Expressing thoughts and words about a writer is always intimidating. Especially when it is one you respect. I don't think I can be very eloquent with how I feel, however, I will do the best that I can with my limited means.

You have always been like family. When I moved away from Illinois, I found you, Alvaro, and Josh to be fantastic friends that grew into family.

We've shared many hours of discussion. Sharing many feelings, ideas and thoughts. Sharing a bond in our common interests. Talking about the things we want in life. Our desires to overcome our shortcomings. And we have not always agreed and that's okay. I always knew at the end of the day we agreed that love, kindness, and equity should be present for all people.

Some of my favorite memories. Reading your Spidey script that you sent to Marvel... Which was a fantastic idea! You gave me my very first personal computer when I genuinely needed some help, I used it for early college and I still have it! I also still have that Curtis Joseph bobblehead from Little Caesar's. I will miss talking Star Trek with you, but at least we will always have your novels to enjoy. But the hours of sharing personal feelings from long ago-- it makes where we ended up so joyous. Your family with Simantha, Josh, Tamara, and the kids... It fulfilled your biggest desire... The realization that you got there makes me happiest. And my friend, I made it too, with my dear wife and kids. Our hearts are finally full.

You were a good and honorable man. I will miss your wit and how satisfied you would be after delivering a witty remark. "Thanks, Chris!" will forever remind me of you, and I couldn't be happier about it. Worth it (sorry).

To paraphrase a movie, in the most geekish fashion... "A thing isn't beautiful because it lasts... it was an honor to be among your friends." I love you, my dear friend. You have left us far too soon. You will always be remembered in my heart. And Simantha, Josh, all of the love and thoughts from my home to yours.

Christopher Grissom

5 months ago

1

I came to know Dave when he first started to work for IT dept at Gallaudet University. The first day I was aware of him, he was the same.No matter how much time went by when I seen or talk with him he was always lighthearted and funny and nice. Our favorite conversation was cooking foods and different ways to do things from the way our elders fone them. I just mentioned my least favorite thing to do was flour a baking,and the stores took my product out of our grocery stores. It was Baker Joy, the next visit he took to Michigan, he came back with 6 cans, this should hold you for a while. Lol He was a very special dude, I missed working with him and eatting our daily mimi snack he kept in the candy jar on his desk.I take out milky way put in quarter,he said no don't do that and I say yes it's fair you go get treats we all gonna chip in,and I said that to other co workers that had their hand in the jar. He just laughed and said yes ma'am..lol..I will miss him,..One of the good ones.

Sheila Bryant

5 months ago

0

So sadden by your loss. When you lose you partner, the void seems vast but you have support and God will walk with you in this time.
Sgt. R. Dean

Richard Dean

5 months ago

0

I’d say that I’ll miss you, Davey, but apparently I died in a fire!
Love ya, brother.
I’ll try to remember you, but ya know...
Sam Kerby

Sam Kerby

5 months ago

6

I will miss Dave, he was always upbeat, happy, and wanted to help people through their problems and funny too! He could fix most any problem and had a way of making everyone he helped feel comfortable. However, In Dave's own words "Cancer is a Nasty Beast" - Bless you Dave

Doug Ricci

5 months ago

0

I first met Dave as the IT guy for our department, three years ago. Since we both arrived to work earlier than many of our colleagues, we often chatted before things got busy. He would delight me with stories of his youth, and his love of language and books. But one thing was crystal clear and that was how much he loved his wife, his son, brother and his brother’s kids. His face would light up whenever he spoke of those kids. I always loved his wry sense of humor. Too many times I would ask him to help me with my computer and he would say I wasn’t allowed to nag him more than his own wife! I will never forget this kind and giving soul. My sympathies and condolences go out to Simantha and their beautiful family. We will all miss Dave and have were made better human beings for having known him.
God bless,
Vivian Gibson

Vivian T. Gibson

5 months ago

1

I first met Dave at Sibley. I always looked forward to saying hi to him and enjoying the latest funny story about he and Simantha, the kiddos latest tussle, his latest update on his book, his witty banter or kind words. I will never forget one of his quotes to live by, “always try to be nice, but never forget to be kind.” Yes, he told me that the from doctor who but it was all too perfect coming from him because through everything, he embodied that very mantra. A day will never go by that those words won’t resonate in my actions and am grateful for Dave’s insight and friendship. Missing you, friend.

Judy T.

5 months ago

0

First time I met Dave was during filming at a STNV episode. I was the 1st AD and as AD's can be, quite frazzled at the time. I'd always enjoyed Dave's books and I admire authors, especially Trek authors. He took a moment to walk up and introduce himself. He mentioned that he was enjoying seeing the filming and he then introduced me to Simantha, his wife. As the years went by, I would see Dave in Ticonderoga, and at various conventions. We always had time for some conversations about Trek. He would talk to me about the "author biz" and a little bit about how "the sausage gets made" for Trek novels. If you're reading this Sam, he LOVED you- it flowed out of him, it oozed out of him, as our conversations turned to our families. Dave did reach out to me privately to tell me of his prognosis. He told me that he was just going to live the best life he could, with whatever time he had left. A few weeks later, I received a message from him, asking if we could send him something from Canada. He was floored when I guessed correctly at what he wanted... I hope that he and Sam got to enjoy every last one of those Southern Fried Shake And Bake Coating Mixes we sent him... Boldly Go, Dave...Boldly Go...

Dennis Hotston

5 months ago

5

Dave was a beautiful man with a soul of pure gold. Although we didn't have many in-person visits, Dave and I met long before he met Simantha. We were playing City of Heroes together with Josh, and I had a business assignment that put me in Flint, MI for a couple of nights. We hung out, he introduced me to White Castle, we discussed his Star Trek books that he was at the time co-authoring. That man knew how to write, let no one tell you differently.

I miss you dearly, old friend. May your journey through the quantum multiverse be brief and satisfying.

Wallace Williams

4 months ago

0

I've been off of all social media since early November. I specifically came back to see how my old Comicboards friend Dave Galanter was doing as I knew he'd been battling cancer. I'm very sad to learn that he passed in mid December. I'm so sorry to hear of his loss, and that I'm so late in expressing my condolences to Dave's family and friends.

I first met Dave (and Josh) while I was still living in MI. He and Josh were helping to run Comicboards at the time and I was a frequent poster there (and eventually a moderator). We had a great talk over dinner and it remains a very special memory for me.

Between the Spider-Man Message Board and the Spider-Girl Message Board, I have many great memories of that time period. Most importantly, the SMB is where I met Wendy, the woman who would ultimately become my wife, in a time when "meeting people on the internet" was not nearly as common as it is now. It often seems like a complete miracle that I met her at all and it's all thanks to those message boards.
While Dave and I only connected occasionally on Facebook over the years, I always considered him a friend and I'm eternally grateful for his part in bringing Wendy into my life. The Comicboards were a wild, exciting place which ran in large part because of Dave, whose calm and steady presence behind the scenes made it a special place that we will never forget.

Rest in peace, Dave, and thank you for everything.

Matt Kayser

4 months ago

5

( i drew the image. Also this is Delilah, Deet's(Dave but he goes by Deet) niece.

Delilah

4 months ago

3

I wanted to let everyone know that I continue to get notices that people have donated in Dave's name to charities they think he would support, are naming characters after him in there books or have raised money to help out our family. The world is made of good people you and Dave are a few that I know. Love to you all

Simantha

3 months ago

2